Have you ever tried a new diet and eventually gave up on it all together? Have you perhaps done this over and over again? I know I have!
In the land of diet culture we live in a world of all or nothing, black and white. The problem with ‘all or nothing’ is that it’s exactly that. ALL or NOTHING. Unfortunately, the ALL period doesn’t usually last very long and we’re then left wondering what defect we possess that makes us unable to sustain something that is ‘good for us’?
Firstly. You’re not defective. There are several reasons why we don’t sustain these health changes long term. It happens to 97% of us and so we really need to let go of self blame. The reasons could be anything from bad timing to your goals not being focused on your values to your body simply saying “enough is enough” .
It could also be as simple as taking too much on at once and setting unrealistic goals that sound great in theory but are just plain depressing when we put them into action.
We all have busy lives. Some of us have no children but busy careers, some of us have several children and some of us have busy careers AND children.
We all have different budgets. I’ve worked with people who are living off 25-50$ a week as a budget for groceries. I have so much respect for those people who are just doing their best despite their hardships.
We all have different things going on in our lives. Some of us are fighting burnout or depression. Some of us might be fighting illness or disease. Some of us might be wheelchair bound or unable to just ‘go for a run’. Some of us are depressed, are anxious or – like many of us. Just plain tired.
My point is. This blanket approach to health that is advertised in social media, through diet culture, or even your health practitioner isn’t going to work for most of us. And by assuming so – we’re setting ourselves up for guilt, shame and an overall let down.
Instead, I encourage you to do only one thing: The best you can. Right here, with what you’ve got.
That’s going to look different for everyone. For some, sure it might be making significant changes to their diet or exercise. For others, it could simply be drinking an extra glass of water, calling or friend or giving yourself permission to just rest.
It could just be doing 1% more this week than you did last week. And that’s ok. In fact, it’s more than ok. Small achievable changes are the sustainable ones.
The law of inertia states that it’s difficult to move from a stationary position. The same goes for us when it comes to change. When 'everything we need to do to be healthy' all feel like too much. We experience ‘paralysis by analysis’ and often do nothing at all. Instead, taking just one small step to take care of yourself can begin to get things moving and rolling again and is much more likely to set us up for success.
You do the best you can, and I will do what’s best for me. We got this.