What’s the 1 thing you need to achieve sustainable weight-loss or health?
Compassion is something that is neglected in most diets out there today. We live in a self-improvement culture and when we fail to maintain these improvements we tend to beat ourselves up and ‘fall off the wagon’.
What if we could learn from our mistakes from a place of compassion rather than feeling like we’ve wrecked the entire thing?
What makes sense?
If you’ve had an average of 21 meals in the week and let’s say 2-3 of them were less than satisfactory. Have you honestly blown it? From an outside perspective, I see 18 amazing self-respecting meals. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative. We can have the best day at work, but something happens at the end of the day and suddenly it’s ruined. This comes from our necessity of learning from our mistakes.
I believe compassion is the cure.
Begin to focus on what you’ve done right, be compassionate with yourself if you’ve had a bad day and couldn’t be bothered to eat vegetables. It’s just one day. The problem only arises when we use that one bad day as an excuse to continue to self-destruct.
Compassion, on the other hand, can move mountains. In a recent study, scientists found that when subjects would show compassion for their perceived failures they are more likely to keep going and use the circumstance as a learning opportunity.
Another study showed how compassion in dietary choices overall led people to make healthier food choices.
When we talk about self-compassion, one of the founding researchers Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S determined we’re talking about 3 main areas
Self-kindness: Not being so hard on yourself
Common humanity: Recognising we’re all in this together.
Mindfulness: Observing and learning without judgement.
It doesn’t have to be as complicated as that though, just think about how you would treat your child if they made a mistake and apply that reasoning to yourself. By doing so you’re not only changing the physical stresses that occur under duress but you’re beginning to break free from the dieting cycle once and for all.
More compassion - more success. It’s as simple as that.